Tuesday, 19 February 2019

Top Tips for Organising your Bedroom


Organizing your bedroom can seem like such a drag but, when you get down to it, it can be so much fun, going through your old things, having a good clear out and when you’re done, you’ll feel like you’ve got a whole new room.

Start with making your bed, it doesn’t take long, it costs nothing, and it’s the main thing that will make your bedroom look better. It doesn’t matter how the rest of your bedroom looks if your bed is messy, the rest of your room will look messy. It’s also an excellent place to start when you are going to organize everything else because you can put things on a neat bed and they won’t get lost.

Next, you have to throw things away. Sorry, you knew it was coming, before you can get organized, you need to get rid of all those things that you don’t need, you don’t use, you might love, but you’ve forgotten about and that things that don’t fit. You have to be ruthless and gather up your clothes and shoes that don’t fit or flatter, gather all the books you’ve already read, the collectibles that you're not bothered about and the exercise ball you never use. Once these things are gone, you won’t think about them again, and it’ll be far easier for you to organize what’s left.

If you have space under your bed or on top of your wardrobe, make use of it. Spaces like this are prime storage areas for shoes, seasonal clothing and sporting equipment, extra linens, and other bulky items. Get yourself some under-bed storage boxes, preferably clear ones so that you can see what’s inside without having to open each box, and if you get some with handles, you’ll have easier access to pull them out.

Next, you need to go through your wardrobe get rid of anything that doesn’t belong in the there as well as clothes and shoes that you no longer wear. Then invest in a few closet organizers and a shoe rack. Hanging organizers and shelf racks are handy for sorting accessories, jumpers, and bags. It’s an excellent idea to arrange your clothing by type or season, whichever one will be most beneficial to you.

Bedside tables are also a significant investment as well as adding an extra touch to your room. Make sure you get some with drawers so you have somewhere to store all the little bits and bobs that can make your room look cluttered like tissues, lip balms, books, pens, notebooks, and hand cream.

Installing hooks on the back of your bedroom and wardrobe doors can be an absolute lifesaver or space saver for hanging your dressing gown, jackets, bags, scarves, hats, and belts.
If you have enough room in your bedroom, a chest or bedding box at the end of the bed is a great spot to stash extra bedding or out-of-season clothing.

Make sorting out your room fun, grab a bottle of wine, and as you go through your old stuff, you can play your old music, read old letters and laugh at old pictures. Don’t get too distracted getting your Taylor Swift albums ranked from best to worse, but if you do get a little side-tracked then it’s ok, it shouldn’t be a chore, and it’s fun to reconnect with yourself.



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Sunday, 17 February 2019

My Anxiety Story - Two Years On

It came back…

Or did it really go away? But now… It’s hit me like a tidal wave.

Two years ago I opened up about my life so far, suffering with anxiety – everything from how it built, to the diagnosis, to how it made me feel. Then I wrote a second post, one year on, I thought I had come out of the other side but maybe I hadn’t. I hadn’t learnt to cope, I’d learnt to avoid.

So, two years on. How much has changed? I will lay it out the same, include a similar photo 2 years on, write it off the top of my head, not go back and edit anything.

Exactly how I have the past two years.

A kind of response, I never expected to write but I am. As life isn’t always as rosy as it looks on social media.

‘I fell apart and no one even noticed.’

2018 was the best year of my life, so who would of thought 2019 would have spiralled out of control so quickly and so suddenly. I’d advise reading the previous post HERE so you get some slight background. January lasted forever and every day felt like Groundhog Day. The same things to do, the same repetitive thoughts and overthinking became something I couldn’t stop doing.

So what happened after that blog post?

I’m not going into the exact details of the events that happened but they knocked every ounce of confidence out of me that I had gained over the last 12 months. I felt a shell of myself. I couldn’t even create a proper conversation with anyone as I was consumed with thoughts, everything was a negative. However, it had been so long since I had felt like this I’d forgot what it was like. So every time I started to shake, feel like the world was passing me without me really being there and I felt ill with no reason at all. It all felt familiar but I refused to admit my anxiety had come back.

The hardest part of it all was I had no one to turn to, I felt like no one cared and everyone seemed all too busy to talk to me when I needed it most. I now know that it was because I never bought it up. How were they supposed to know that every night I had tears in my eyes, that through the smile I was breathing ever so deep to stop my body going into sheer panic.  

There was a moment I realised it had come back. I was sitting in the car with a friend, the radio was on and we were just having a general chit chat then out of nowhere. Tears rolled down my face. I’m not sure whether it even got noticed as it was dark and I just carried on the conversation but everything I had been holding in and everything that happened all seemed to just become an enormous wave of emotion. When I got back home I felt terrible. It was also the moment that I decided to turn things around.

Instead of having no motivation, spending my days thinking about things that might not even matter in a years’ time. I made a list. Everything I needed to do. Everything I wanted to do and I worked through that. My days had a purpose again, other than the normal routine and this helped a lot.

I still don’t feel 100% and I don’t want people to suddenly pity me. The whole reason I decided to write this is because I also sat back and looked at my social media. I was portraying a perfect life. I looked as if I had everything I could possibly want, I was still having amazing experiences. When I wasn’t. I had cherry picked the best parts and how is that going to help anyone struggling because surely they will feel like they are the only ones struggling when other people are too.

People can have the world and still be struggling – and that’s important to remember.

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Tuesday, 29 January 2019

Just Go For It!


There were a hundred reasons I would tell myself why I shouldn't go for it. It didn't matter what 'it' was I would think of a reason. When it comes to trying something new and stepping out of my little bubble otherwise known as my comfort zone I do not find it easy to go for it.  

For me its because I worry about my existing responsibilities, how it may affect other people or perhaps the consequences that may come from it. I'm an overthinker, a worrier so there are many, many reasons I don't rock the boat.

However, I am about to contradict myself as I am a dreamer, I am always looking for how I can achieve my ambitions and that means I am always pushed out of what I would consider 'the norm'. Nothing I do is normal, not my job, not my interest they all take a whole lot of never knowing what's around the corner - it's kind of become a bit like always jumping off a cliff with my eyes closed - I never quite know where I'll land. Sometimes it might hurt and go wrong but alternatively, I can end up in the best place. 

Recent events have given me no choice. It was time for a fresh start and jumping at new opportunities. So like me will you take the first steps to achieving? Are you planning on writing a book? Travelling the world? Ditching a  toxic relationship you're currently in? It's all about moving forward to a healthier. happier life. It might be none of these things but you know what you desire for the future.

I know that lifestyle bloggers helped me so hopefully, a few of my tips will help you.

Mindset 

Whether you want a new job or maybe even a career change, re-train so you are in the right place. It's all too easy to let fear get in the way and anxiety of the unknown stop you but I have found if I recognise there are unknowns and you can't possibly predict what's around the corner in day to day life anyway. Even if it's been your job for the last 25 years, tomorrow the company could liquidate. Or maybe you think ' Let's wait a year' but what if a year's too late. If you realise this it will allow you too 
take control and therefore feel more comfortable. It's also a good idea to think. Am I happy? If the answer is no then this should also put you in the mindset its time to make a change.

Be Practical

Making big changes isn't just how you feel, you do need to consider the practical elements too. Make small, manageable changes if that works better in your situation especially if it is slightly more risky or your decision will affect others. Financially, look at savings, potential earnings or even a Guarantor loans. There is always an option, be careful in deciding which is the best for you.

Be Strong

I know that I have many ideas and possibilities whizzing around in my head that I get caught up n the moment and some of the things I decide to do are a little bit out there. I did say I was a dreamer aha! People may say its impossible but if you can believe it you can achieve it.
Also remember self care is very important, eat properly, stay hydrated and exercise so the outcome is the best it could be.

Find Encouragement

If this post isn't enough, seek out family and friends who will push you and tell you the impossible is possible. Find things online, success stories, motivational speeches.
Make a mental list of all the excuses that person might have made not to pursue their dreams and then imagine them smashing through them. It’s that kind of mental toughness that you might have to develop too. If you are in a situation that requires you to leave an unhealthy relationship then you might need to call on the help of professional services. Finding friends to encourage you is a great idea in any case. You might even persuade one to come with you on your trip.

Finally...

You don’t need to rush into making decisions, you don’t even need to rush into taking any action but you do need to commit to change if that’s what you ultimately want to do.
Spend some time reading around your subject so you know the decisions you’re making are informed and start putting together that action plan to escape that dreary office cubicle or enroll on that course towards what you feel is your calling.

Make sure you create some time and space to really think about what you’re doing and focus in on creating a good mental attitude that will drive your actions forwards. Be encouraged that other people have done it before you and, like them, you will succeed in whatever it is you’re choosing to do.
Do your research, get your finances in place and get ready to go. It’s time to stop making excuses about why you can’t and start thinking about how you can. It’s time to go for it. After all what have you got to lose?


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Thursday, 10 January 2019

Top 3 Fashion Trends of 2019!


Love being right on the money when it comes to your outfits, but don't want to spend every last penny you have on your wardrobe? Well, you've come to the right place, because below no only do I identify the most prominent fashion trends of 2019, but come up with ways to achieve them that don't require you to win the lottery either. Read on for more.

Retro styling

Last year I loved 'all things 90’s, and 2019 will keep bringing back the past but with more of an 80's vibe! Think boxy silhouettes, shiny fabrics, and even bum bags! Of course, the shops will be packed full of these items, but if you want the look for less, which I always do! It's a good idea to go to stores that embrace fast fashion at a low price like Primark which is perfect for something you might not wear this time next year.


Layering Jewellery

When it comes jewellery in SS 2019 more is most definitely more. I have already started this, even getting my ears pierced again so I can wear even more! Layering chokers with longer necklaces, ear cuffs, hoops and studs and, of course a lot of stacked rings. There are endless possibilties, even with a casual outfit it adds that bit of style. Even try using retro styled pieces which combines two of the biggest trends.

Luckily,  you can get some pretty fancy gold tragus piercings, and other jewellery for a ridiculously low price, if you shop online. In fact, at such low cost you can afford to treat yourself to more than one item, and so kill that layered look dominating the spring-summer season in 2019.

Kitsch and camp

Lastly, as Vogue discusses here, The Met Gala theme this year is camp, and that means any clothing or accessory item that is retro will be in high demand, but a lot of these pieces come with a high price tag due to being unique. All you need to do is think bright, colourful and make a statement throughout the SS19 season!  

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Tuesday, 1 January 2019

Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019!


Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019!

As I sit here on New Year's Eve thinking of the year that has just passed I realised it has definitely been a year of two halves. The first 6 months to the last 6 months have felt like two completely different years - Both full of both great highs and terrible lows with nothing quite falling in the middle. 2018 most definitely will be a year I will remember.

2018 started with having a hell of a lot of determination as I was in a place where I really just wanted to sort my life out. This is why they feel like completely different years. From January - May I built up everything I felt I was missing. From passing my driving test, saving up money and gaining a lot of work experience. I also built my self-confidence through this and really grew as a person. Most of this was also down to the fact I really tried to overcome my anxiety and finally reached a point where I could say I was happier than I had been for a while.

The second half of the year, things fell into place. I got a new job, made incredible friends and experienced things I could only have dreamt of at the start of the year. However, not all was good. On  the 1st August 2018 my Grandad passed away, he'd been ill for a while but it was still sudden. It took me a while to come to terms with it all, not really believing what had happened.

2018 was the also the year of friends. The ones I already had I grew even closer too and met some  amazing people who I don't know what I did without.

So 2018 you were a year too remember. But here's to 2019. I'm leaving this an open book, no resolutions, no aims, no pressures. Just to do whatever I want, when it feels right.

Happy New Year! 

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