Friday, 23 February 2018

Learning to Drive - My Experience

I passed my driving test!!!

But let's just say my experience learning to drive wasn't the easiest.

I began learning to drive the first weekend after my 17th birthday - 1 year 6 months ago (just so you understand the timeline of the post). My mom and dad surprised me with my first lesson as I had always said I would love to drive but I was extremely nervous so very happy that my parents only told me about two hours prior to my first lesson. I loved my first lesson, it was very basic in the sense of he drove me to a car park I drove forwards a bit and turned around but he said I was picking it up quickly. I came home very pleased and had booked my next ten lessons. Two lessons in I was still going round and round a car park and me being me was getting very frustrated the lessons weren't 
moving on quickly as I loved driving and was quite confident behind the wheel. I started to think about what to do to encourage the lessons forward without appearing rude to the instructor as of course, he was in charge but I was paying £25 an hour and wanted my money's worth as that's definitely not cheap. I then broke my toe and could hardly walk nor wear shoes for a while so this, of course, put a halt to my lessons. At this point, I also struggled with high anxiety (see my anxiety story HERE) and I suddenly didn't enjoy my lessons for  number of reasons including the pace of the lessons, not connecting with the instructor and the price which meant I didn't want to endure them in a time I was overly sensitive. 

So I moved on to a second instructor, my mom, one of my bestest friends, her boyfriend and a couple of other people I knew had or currently used him so I thought it was a great option. I stuck with him for a very long time August 2016 - May 2017 including two tests which now I look back and think was a very long time. A very long time as every lesson he would turn up either 30 minutes earlier or 30 minutes to an hour late as if I had nothing else to do in the day so I had to keep a whole afternoon or mornign free which was very inconvenient, he also made me pick someone else up and swap over in the lesson so they drove me back home meaning a lesson time would usually last 2 hours as I would be drove around by the first person for a while, my lesson would start, I would pick someone up and then they would start there lesson and I would sit in on some of there lesson. (If that makes any sense) My lesson would also be less than the time it should have been and on the journey, he would make me park up at a variety of places such as the corner shop, pet shop, basically, anywhere he wanted to go. I was like his taxi. Whilst waiting for him to finish at these places also ate into my lesson time. He also smoked a pipe, yelled at every given moment if I did the smallest thing wrong, swore at me and said everything he possibly could that was derogatory to me. As you can tell it was a nightmare. 

The tests themselves were horrible. The first test I failed for crossing lanes which in hindsight I probably did do but he grabbed the steering wheel and started shouting at that I was going to hit a car. He then continued to shout at me telling me to calm down which inevitably made me even more nervous to the point I nearly started crying in my driving test. (Not to scare anyone!) My second test I was incredibly nervous as I created so much pressure on myself and that just made me mess up.

Then I swapped to my most recent instructor who claimed a quick pass which I very much needed. At this point I didn't know if it was the instructor, lack of experience or nerves that were making me fail the last two tests. At this point, I felt I was a very capable, confident driver so didn't understand why I kept failing. So my lessons were going great, I did my third test - failed, fourth test - failed and I started to give up. I had no idea how I was going to stop my nerves making me mess up but today I did my fifth (i know it sounds a lot!) and it was great. I definitely think the new test is a lot easier but also I got a minor for something I got a major for last time which I also think proves that it really depends who you get on the day. 

I am so glad I stuck at it even though it seemed nearly impossible and shows determination pays off.

It always seem's impossible until it's done.

♥︎ 

8 comments:

  1. Well done! I am on my third instructor and have my third test next week and I am so scared about it! x

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    1. Thankyou! Good Luck I'm sure you will be fine, staying calm really is the key even though I know it's hard in the moment! x

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  2. I'm currently going through driving tests; I failed my 2nd test last week because, as you said, I was just sooo nervous for it and put too much pressure on myself. I really hope that I can pass my next test and get it out of the way! Congratulations, it's so amazing that you passed :) xx

    Alice // The Rose Glow

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    1. Thank you! Before I started I never knew how hard it would be! Good Luck next time, theres so much relief when it's over xx

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  3. So many congratulations! My boyfriend (age 27) is still learning to drive and still struggling!

    https://lizziedailyblog.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thankyou! Oh no! Good Luck to him in his future tests xx

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  4. Fantastic! Believe it or not, passing a driving test is a big achievement. Congratulations!!

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    1. Thankyou! and as it took so long I definitely think it is too! x

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